Saturday, April 19, 2014

If you wanna be a missionary, you better think of the basics.

Here's something they don't tell you when you go to be a missionary. Well, at least they never told me. Maybe they did and I just never took it seriously, but anyway.
Make friends as quick as you can.
Up and moving to a different country to do whatever warm fuzzies God's asking you to do comes at a very serious price that I didn't quite start to realize until I got several months in. It's flippin' lonely. If you don't get out of your comfort zone fast that is.
Being in ministry at a place like this, you work with the same people you live with, which are also the people you bible study with, and eat with and minister with and do well, pretty much everything with.
That's unhealthy.
You wanna keep sane in this line of work, you need to make your first priority to make friends with people in the community that you are close to. And fast.
When you choose to move like this, you pretty much leave behind all of your deep and meaningful relationships and let me tell you, that's a hard thing to adjust to not having.
So the trick is, before you do anything, make sure you have somewhere or rather someone to go to outside of your ministry for when things start getting hard, you want to get away, or you just want to go have some fun with.
But the second part of all of this is, friends don't really come to you. You can't go out and "find" friends. It's not like a where's waldo kind of thing where you stand amongst a bunch of people and say: "There! I spotted one! A friend!" You're not hunting for special game.
You have to MAKE friends. Which means, although I hate leaving home, I hate talking to new people, and I HATE that uncomfortable "first date" with friends. You know, that moment when one of you finally says: "Do you wanna hang out? Go get a coffee or something?" And you have NO idea if the conversation will be awkward, if you'll even have things to talk about. What if they think I'm a really uncomfortable person and they decide they don't want to be friends with me, and that door completely shuts.
All I can say is, it's worth the risk. Making friends is not an easy business, at least not for me. But it's necessary and worth it.

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